Main Scripture: And the Lord God
said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet
for him. Genesis 2:18 (KJV)
Often times as women we ask the question where are the good men? This is
understandable as statistics clearly show that “good men” are in short supply
as women outnumber men in churches, in educational attainment and men are
lagging behind in employment. This morning ladies, I would like us to reflect
on how we contribute to this growing problem and how what can we do to improve
it.
We sometimes criticize our men, complaining that they are not good men, that
they are not strong, that they are not responsible and also that they don’t know
how to treat women and so on.
However, do we demand a certain treatment from men before we enter into life long relationships with them? Are we like the female eagle that test the male eagle’s strength and dedication before we have children with them? Do we lower our standards and settle for mediocre because we are scared that we cannot do any better or we would rather have a relationship than none at all? Do we demand that men date us or do we make it easy for them? Do we allow them to open the doors or do we open the doors ourselves? Are we feminists who demand equality with men? Do we take over their roles as leaders instead of demanding and allowing them to lead?
What about parenting - mothers are we training our boys to be good, strong men who know how to treat women? Or are we smothering and over protecting them? Do we support and encourage them when they do things that are wrong especially towards women? Do we grow them up in the admonition of the Lord? Do we teach them to respect themselves, adults and others? Do we discipline our boys?
What about leadership in the home? – Wives do we allow the men to be the head of the house? Do we submit to our husbands in everything as prescribed in Ephesians 5:33. Do we submit to our husbands as fitting to the Lord? Do we emasculate our men or do we respect and praise them continuously? Do we trust them to lead or do we question their every decision? Do we respect them or do we show them who wear the pants every chance we get? Do we remind them of their failures constantly or do we support them in all endeavours?
Ladies, I am not saying that we should allow men to treat us any way and we take it. I am not suggesting that we should not be leaders in our own right? I am just asking us to search ourselves this morning, sometimes we are so independent and so intolerant we tend to take on the roles of men. When we do this they then take a back seat.
However, do we demand a certain treatment from men before we enter into life long relationships with them? Are we like the female eagle that test the male eagle’s strength and dedication before we have children with them? Do we lower our standards and settle for mediocre because we are scared that we cannot do any better or we would rather have a relationship than none at all? Do we demand that men date us or do we make it easy for them? Do we allow them to open the doors or do we open the doors ourselves? Are we feminists who demand equality with men? Do we take over their roles as leaders instead of demanding and allowing them to lead?
What about parenting - mothers are we training our boys to be good, strong men who know how to treat women? Or are we smothering and over protecting them? Do we support and encourage them when they do things that are wrong especially towards women? Do we grow them up in the admonition of the Lord? Do we teach them to respect themselves, adults and others? Do we discipline our boys?
What about leadership in the home? – Wives do we allow the men to be the head of the house? Do we submit to our husbands in everything as prescribed in Ephesians 5:33. Do we submit to our husbands as fitting to the Lord? Do we emasculate our men or do we respect and praise them continuously? Do we trust them to lead or do we question their every decision? Do we respect them or do we show them who wear the pants every chance we get? Do we remind them of their failures constantly or do we support them in all endeavours?
Ladies, I am not saying that we should allow men to treat us any way and we take it. I am not suggesting that we should not be leaders in our own right? I am just asking us to search ourselves this morning, sometimes we are so independent and so intolerant we tend to take on the roles of men. When we do this they then take a back seat.
Genesis 2:18 tells us that the Lord made us as a help meet for man; it
means that we should support our men; we should respect them, encourage them and
lift them up. There is a saying that goes “behind every great man, there is a great
woman.” This great woman can either be his wife, his mother, his sister or even
a good friend. Fact is they need our support in order for them to be successful
at what they do.
Ladies, if you think that good men are in short supply then stop talking
down to our men and criticizing them. The Bible also says that death and life
are in the power of our tongues, what we say will be manifested eventually. I
believe our years of talking bad about men have been manifested. Let’s start
talking positively and allow the men to take their rightful place as men. I
believe when we start doing this the men will arise. It is their nature to be
leaders and protectors but if we don’t demand this from them and stop making it
easy by filling these positions they will not step up to the plate. This kind
of attitude could save your marriage, your family, your life and even a whole
generation.
Let’s Pray,
Father, this morning we want to thank you for the men in our lives,
especially the ones that are playing their roles as men. Lord today forgive us
for speaking negatively about men. Lord help as of today help us to speak positively,
encourage and support those that you have blessed us with. Lord we understand the
gaps but we know that you are able to do what we ask. We place this in your hands.
These and other mercies we ask.
In Jesus Name
Amen
Have A God Filled Day Ladies
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